God went into the Father Business?

Paul tenaciously collects threads in scripture to weave an astonishing message: true all along.  These Romans verses picture God’s promise and great love for us as Father. 

Inspect a $20 bill.  See its red and blue flecks?  Those scattered threads make no pattern, but they mean everything to the Treasury’s electromagnetic detectors.  So, scattered verses in Romans weave God’s powerful truth.  He is Father to us.  Let’s gather those threads.

This calls to failed fathers, like me.  We fail as fathers in myriads of ways: a child doesn’t achieve well.  Dad on TV do it all better, and a relationship goes south.  If you are a dad and have failed pointedly so everyone knows, welcome.  If your dad might use this, then you can send it.

Once upon a time there was a communion called God.  He still is three: Father, Son, and Holy Spirit.  Holy Spirit is important, but not a central character now.  Now, we sing the Father and His Only Begotten Son.

Paul sings in Romans 1:7: “To all [ya’ll] (he was really from Texas) who are beloved of God, called as saints: Grace to you and peace from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ!”  This Jewish Ph.D. in theology sings, “We wouldn’t have known!  We had no idea!  We thought God was about being good and law-abiding.  If it hadn’t been for Jesus we would have never gotten God as Father!”

God talks to us in Jesus.  The single new thing He says in Jesus is that He, God, is Father. 

We rightly trumpet dead-beat dads and abusive fathers who injure kids and wives, but we do what Blaise Paschall warns against: “God created us in His image, and we return the favor.”  He warned against projecting on to God our failings.  Let’s not. 

Remember what were the first things you knew of God?

In a new love with Jesus did you love life?  Did you love release from dreaded terrors?  How wonderful to bring your failures, your naked self to God?  Do you remember “the Clean”?  Can you recall deep joy in being loved, even though He deeply knew you?  Recall an incredible lightness in first loving God as Jesus’ Dad?  That’s the point of Jesus.  He helped me fall in love with Papa, knowing nothing could nix my clean, or being His child.

Did time steal the first blush, your first pang of love?  God is the same yesterday, today, and tomorrow.  He is still the One I first loved.  If one of us changed, it wasn’t Him.  Did you try everything Paul tried in religion and mistake those for growth?  God in Heaven shows us the most important thing in His Son.  The Proud Father dispatched angels to tell us it was His Boy down in that manger!

A soccer dad watching his girl get massacred as goalie did a “dad thing”.  He left the stands, walked around, hugged his girl, and stood behind her the rest of the game. 

In Romans we see God work in history.  Having made a garden of Eden He tried to be Father to Adam and Eve.  Perfect God.  Perfect Garden.  The kids not close to perfect. 

Again, God is perfect, but fathers can see God knows our stories.  God gave it His best shot, and still things unraveled.  My failures to my sons are clear.  God differs from me: He’s perfect.  God even knows I gave it my far-from-perfect best shot.  God gave Adam His absolutely-perfect-best shot, and we both as fathers, have watched our failures flounder. 

As reverently as I can, please hear that God knows things go wrong.  God knows fathers can start with powerful possibilities and end with messes.  God knew Adam’s epic fail would take the life of God’s perfect Son?  Think on this sort of love.  God knew.  He still let Adam and Eve have kids that led to us and our loving God through His First Son and still fail!  What love is this?  It is a love entered into only by faith. 

In Romans 4:11-12. Paul mentions another father: Abraham.  What did Abe do to “be the father of all who believe . . . that righteousness might be reckoned to them?”  Paul separates out what Abraham did in faith [circumcision, Promised Land.]  God gives no fatherhood formula.  A father can only act in faith to a life he prays is best for his children.  Abraham acted in faith for us “who follow in the steps of the faith of our father Abraham.”  As fathers we faith for our kids. 

Verse 16 concludes, “For this reason it is by faith” we love God.  Paul touches Abraham and Sarah’s faith to become parents, “In hope against hope [Abe] believed, in order that he might become a father of many nations.”  Paul as a Jew claims Abraham as their father in bloodlines.  Good.  God smiles on us differently says Paul.  We are Abraham’s kids as we follow Christ in Faith.  As Abe followed in faith, so must we.  So we are God’s kids and Abe’s kids.

Hear it again.  I am Abe’s descendant, so God’s covenant with Abe is mine as I was adopted into the family.  I’m in God’s family not by blood, but by faith.  I’m in Abe’s covenant, not by lineage, but by adoption.  That is how God’s fatherhood comes “to” me. 

How does it go out from me?  God seeks to take more Christian fathers, and build what you have in Christ into children not born into Christian families.  If we are to change the world, more fathers must adopt more spiritual children.

Maybe you have children who love the Lord.  That is great! May God reward you for being such a father.  Amen.  But to grow in Christ, you must become as Abraham was.  To be like Abe you must multiply your number of children-by-faith. 

I see dads adopt youth.  Many do it informally.  Some as teachers adopt students.  Many give their lives to adopt kids in scouting.  Some become spiritual father to young husbands and fathers.  God needs more.

In Abraham’s day the family was topsy-turvy like today.  God sends single moms and dads to His church to find spiritual parents.  God sends youth who need Jesus, and are recovering from divorces, abuse, and absent fathers.  God calls you, dad. 

You, failing fathers, and you, fathers blessed by your kids, may I ask you something?  Do you yearn to invest some of your of your counsel and love into God’s next generation?  Abraham has more spiritual children than blood kin.  Do you see God’s multiplication?  Paul only had spiritual kids: Tim and Titus.  Who do you think put that desire in your heart, dad?

Rand flew to New York to be in Jeff Paoletti’s wedding.  The Wergins adopted Kirsten and Jeff.  Jim and Cheryl Wilkinson were in Tulsa to see Marci light candles at Ann Munn’s wedding.  Why?  Three years ago, Adopt-A-Student finished.  A week later the Wilkinsons came here.  A week after that Jim asked Ann if she had been adopted.  She said, “No.” The Wilkinsons adopted her.  How big is that to Ann?  In a room with 64 invited guests for her wedding and sit-down dinner, four were Ann’s adopted family: the Wilkinsons.  Ann was no disaster.  She came as DIL (Daughter-In-Law) material!  Fathers, Jim and Rand are blessed to be used by God in the lives of Jeff, Kirsten, and Ann.  God put that hunger in your heart, father.  But what if you’re not worthy?  

Look in Romans 6:4 for a Father snapshot: “We were buried with [Christ] through baptism into death, so that as Christ was raised from the dead through the Father’s glory, so we too might walk in newness of life.”  God takes us as children after we die.  All of us dies.  God sees in us His completely new children.  All the rest dies in baptism.  My mistakes keep dying, and I keep on being born anew.  He continually bury parts of me as dad, and God makes failed parts new. 

I’m transformed.  I’m new.  Any baggage with me, I had to bring it, I foolishly chased and claimed in baggage claim.  God as Father starts me over.  My Heavenly Father knew every father must start over, and over, and over.  He also knew starting over is hard!  So God said:  “You have not received a spirit of slavery leading to fear again, but you received a spirit of adoption as sons (and daughters) by which we cry out, “Papa! Father!” Romans 8:15.  Now the Holy Spirit!  He empowers us to call God, “Papa.”  “Go ahead, call Him ‘Papa’.  Start over.  May your kids see you start over, Dad.”  Now for sons and daughters of failed fathers.  God stands with you as the Father you wished you could have had while getting massacred all alone as goalie in front of everyone.  God is with you to assuage horrors and give you the ability to be the father or mother you think is impossible. 

Maybe you think the Holy Spirit, the Spirit of the Father is not strong in you.  So Paul gives one last “father” blessing.  Romans 15:5-7.  This is how God is Father.  This is how we encourage all dads, especially failing ones.  “Now may the God who gives perseverance and encouragement grant you to be of the same mind with one another according to Christ Jesus; that with one accord you may with one voice glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ.  So, accept one another, just as Christ also accepted us to God’s glory.” 

I began by saying the Holy Spirit was not in central casting until later.  Later is now.  The Holy Spirit whispers this love song, “Father God is everything the others were not.  His Son told the Truth about the Father.  They tell the Truth about you.”

We take up the song not if we accept each other like tolerance roars, but as God preaches acceptance.  An old prophet entered Jesse’s house saying, “I’ve come king hunting.”  God dared father and prophet to see what God saw.  The old prophet, himself a failed father, and the father of the boys, looked at all Jesse’s boys.  God said no to all, almost.  The littlest was out tending sheep.  And God chortled from heaven, you didn’t see it, did you?  You missed him because you missed David’s heart!  Davey has a king’s heart!  Father God saw it in Solomon.  He saw it in Deborah, Esther, and Ruth.  God as Father is “first believer” in a boy or a girl and then shows His assessment right to everyone.  God calls and believes first and proves it to the rest of us!

We see this picture’s tail end easily.  At every prison deathwatch, we see a mom who is the last to believe in her baby boy or girl strapped to a gurney, awaiting a lethal injection.  Give us first believers as fathers.  More men must step up and invest in children who the Father of Lights brings when a biological father fails.

That is what communion is about.  The Father who believed in you first, who salvaged you with His perfect Son.  The Father who gave His successful Son for your failures invites you to communion: a family meal!  Amen.  Profess Jesus as brother, and get God as Father.  Adopted.

If you hunt them, these verses were in the Bible all along, like scattered threads. 

Psalm 68:5. A father of the fatherless and a judge for the widows, is God….

Psalm 103:13 as a dad has compassion on his kids, so God has compassion on us who fear Him

Proverbs 3:12 for whom the Lord loves He reproves, like a dad a son in whom he delights.

Isaiah 9:6 a child will be born to us, a son given to us.  And His name will be called … Eternal Father

Isaiah 64:8 O Lord, Thou art our Father.  We are clay, and Thou our Potter.

Paul says, like scattered threads, God knew we could not put the threads into a pattern, so He sent His Son in flesh, pulling together all the threads and pointing to the Father.  So, He sends us men to show us how to spend ourselves as spiritual fathers and mothers.  What say you?

Prayer beyond knowing, beyond passion, beyond anything.

The Heart of the Message:

Part One “And in the same way the Spirit also helps our weakness”
Part Two “for we do not know how to pray as we should”
Part Three “but the Spirit Himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words; Romans 8:26

Greek Words in part Three
stenagmos; a groaning.  This is the only time this word refers to God.  It’s the only time it appears in this form.
huperentugchano; from huper (super abounding) and entugchano (to intercede) ¾to make petition for.  This is the only time this word appears in this intensive form.
Alaletos — inexpressible, too deep for words.  This is the only time we see this word in Scripture

We have in us places deeper than we know.  God talks with us there, sketching in our lives, our futures, and the deep truths.

We see God’s heart here.  He yearns with great ardor for us to know Him intimately. 

Many good things flood to us in God’s grace.  Rather than condemn us, He condemns sin in us to kill it, to remove it.  God fashions our escape from the law of sin and death.  He casts off our slavery.  He indwells us, adopts us, and allows us to call Him Papa as joint heirs with Jesus.  God empowers our life, in peace and resurrected power.  He lets us suffer and be glorified in Him, to reap the Holy Spirit’s first-fruits in us. 

This next truth stands alone in scripture.  If “all of creation groaning for the revealing of God’s sons and daughters” is Mount Everest.  This is K2.  No verse in God’s word promises more!  Many climb Everest every year.  Steel ladders help up the west wall.  A Sherpa broke the record of 18 hours for climbing to the top from Base by 6 hours!  Few climb K2.  Few dare its daunting heights.  Few climb verse 26’s dizzying heights.  Paul reveals three pieces we must know to climb these dizzying heights.

Piece # One:  And in the same way the Spirit also helps our weakness (NAS) or in the NIV helps us in our weakness.  …the Spirit too comes to help us in our weakness (Living).

The Christian message thunders our strength in Christ, while we hold to our weak parts.  We live in Christ, yet still cherish dead things in us.  We grow in Christ, while still stunted.  Do not trust her who whispers all about you is marred.  Dump his podcasts that, on the other hand say we are nothing but potential (to him you’re a potential consumer).  We are both strong and weak; alive and dead; growing and stubby.  We are the only beings in God’s image who must die.  We’re the only animals to be redeemed.  Weakness comes to us.  Weakness need not hunt us to find us, so God’s spirit helps in our weakness.  To soar prayer’s dizzying heights, grasp NOT your strength, but your weakness!  Seize it to scale prayer’s depths.  My friend was so sick with cancer she could no longer pray, but someone left her a mystical, magical bear she could press… it sang her favorite prayer for her. 

Piece # Two:  “For we do not know how to pray as we should (NAS), we cannot see the future.  We do not know what we ought to pray for (NIV), we cannot predict all consequences of one actGod’s Spirit is right alongside helping us along.  If we don’t know how or what to pray, it doesn’t matter (Message).

You may be eloquent or poetic and still not know how to pray as you ought.  The disciples followed Jesus for years before realizing they did not know how to pray.  Paul wrote this after spending three years in a desert practicing his prayers!  Paul knew he did not know how to pray.  Do you know as much as he did?  Do you pray and then humbly ask God to shed light on how to move in spite of your blind prayers?  We don’t know how to pray.  Like climbing K2 for the first time, and trying alternate routes!  Moreover, we can’t guess if our prayer has cut deeply enough! 

Do you sense how deeply your last prayer cuts into all you love?  Hannah prayed wordlessly before Eli, moaning back and forth, appearing drunk, to ask God for a child.  Did Moses say, “I’ll return to this mountain with your folks?”  Did Isaiah know that saying, “I’m here!  Send me!” would cut deeply into his life and times?  Some prayers are too much to grasp, even if you say the words.  Some prayers are too deep to plumb.  So I don’t know how to pray, what can I do?  1) I pray what I know.  God makes up the difference.  2) I pray to know God’s corrections as He makes them.  3) I pray for Holy Spirit, and courage, insight, and humility to act on all He shows me.  Two things:  I know I’m weak.  I know I don’t know how to pray through this. 

Piece # Three has three “onlys” (groanings, superintercedes, too deep for words):  The Spirit Himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words (NAS), or with groans words cannot express (NIV).  He does our praying in and for us, making prayer out of our wordless sighs, our aching groans (Message) The Spirit personally makes our petitions for us in groans that cannot be put into words (Living).

The English word intercedes is tepid.  Paul says He super-intercedes.  He aboundingly, with no limits intercedes!  Intercede here is supercharged compared to verses 27 and 34.  You need no saint to intercede for you.  You have God’s Spirit!  Dispense with angels or “spiritual guides”.  Tap the angels’ Boss!  God’s very Spirit super-intercedes for you! 

This is the only place we see another word here for God.  God’s Spirit groans!?  My own depths I do not know, God prays in those!  How?  Fears I’ve not overcome, God prays in them.  How?  Hopes I haven’t courage to hope out loud, the Spirit intercedes in those, but how? 

The Bible speaks of groans throughout, but they’re our groans save here in Romans! 

The Hebrews groaned under slavery in Egypt. Exodus 2:24, 6:5. 

The Hebrews groaned when beaten in the Promised Land, Judges 2:18

Job groaned under God’s heavy hand. Job 23:2

David groaned to make God hear. Psalm 5:1

David groaned at the devastation of the afflicted, and the needy’s groaning. Psalm 12:5

David groaned when he felt forsaken by God. Psalm 22:1

David’s groans pierced his silence about his sin with Bathsheba. Psalm 32:3

Prisoners and the dying groan. Psalm 102:20

We will groan at our latter end. Proverbs 5:11

Wicked rulers make us groan. Proverbs 29:2

A harsh reality made Isaiah groan. Isaiah 21:2

Silence from too much pain makes us groan, gasp, and pant. Isaiah 42:14

Jeremiah was weary with groaning. Jeremiah 45:3

Jerusalem groaned when naked and broken. Lament. 1:8

Ezekiel asked himself, “Why do I groan?” ¾ often. Ezekiel 21:6-7, 24:17, 23; 26:15; 30:24

The prophets groaned deeply.  Joel 1:18; Malachi 2:13.

Today in this verse we see, we hear the only time God groans with us.  His groans are indescribable, too deep for words.  Then scripture says something totally different about our groaning after this. 

We groan to leave this flesh, to be clothed with our heavenly dwelling. 2 Corinthians 5:2 &4

God groans with us!  He groans in a depth words can’t touch.  If Christ is your Lord.  If you professed Jesus as Lord, baptized in His Name, then this groaning, this intercession happens for you, know the Holy Spirit super-intercedes for you. 

1)  Can I train to hear God in my weakness, to find Him when I know I don’t know how to pray, to hear His groaning for me?  Moses taught Israel, Be silent, and listen! You have now become God’s people!  Deuteronomy 27:9.  David: When you are on your beds, search your hearts and be silent, Psalm 4:4.  Solomon says there is a time to be silent, Ecc. 3:7. The Lord is in His holy temple; let all the earth be silent before Him Habakkuk 2:20.  Be silent before the Sovereign Lord Zephaniah 1:7.  Have trouble with silence?  Try blowing bubbles.  Absorb a sunset.  Walk quietly. Watch the night sky to practice awe and silence. 

2) I won’t get all of it.  I must obey with what I hear.

3)  Each test of my faltering faith brings me to a place of weakness, not knowing how to proceed… here He intercedes beyond what I can know.

4)  Pray knowing God never compares eloquence(s).  He plumbs your depths you may not know.  Catholics light candles to let God remember the prayer when they’re too tired.

Practice listening in obedience.  Heard a groan too deep for words?  Groaned for heaven yet?

The best I can give you for cleaning out your ears to hear silence better is clear confession.  Make clear, honest confession to God.